How to ask a guy out if youre a girl

Marriage arrangements vary across time and cultures. The Western tradition of man on bended knee proposing marriage to his unsuspecting darling is a relatively new practice. In past times, and in many cultures today, marriages were arranged by the parents of the bride and groom. Although the idea of a woman proposing to a man is slowly gaining acceptance, it is still considered the norm for the man to initiate a marriage proposal. But simply because a practice is traditional doesn’t mean it is right. So, according to the Bible, is it ever appropriate for a woman to propose marriage to her sweetheart?

Although there is no Bible verse that speaks definitively to this issue, the concept of the man taking the initiative to propose actually does have some foundation in Scripture. God created the man first and then created the woman from the man’s rib. Genesis 2:22 says, “Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.” Paul echoes this order of creation in 1 Corinthians 11:8–9 when he says, “For man did not come from woman, but woman from man; neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.” He goes on to explain that this order is part of God’s design in leadership, not based upon cultural mores but God’s intention. There are no instances in the Bible where a woman proposes to a man. Marriages were arranged through the families of each, and so the idea of a woman proposing was never considered.

Since God created men to lead, both in church and at home, then it seems natural that his leadership would begin with proposing marriage to the woman of his choice (1 Corinthians 11:3). She is, of course, free to decline his offer; however, it may not be wise to extend her freedom to proposing marriage. A woman’s proposal may set an unhealthy precedent for the resulting marriage. A common complaint by Christian women in marriage counseling is that their husbands won’t lead spiritually. If the man will not even take the initiative to propose marriage, a woman could be setting herself up for a lifetime of disappointment at his lack of leadership.

The biblical parallel of Christ as bridegroom also lends some wisdom to this issue. Throughout Scripture, Jesus is compared to a bridegroom who loves His bride, the church, and is preparing to return and carry her away to the wedding feast (2 Corinthians 11:2; Ephesians 5:25–27). Jesus, as our model groom, is the aggressor in every aspect of His relationship with us. It is He who came to earth to redeem us while we were far from Him (Romans 5:8). And it is the initiative of the Father that draws us and supplies the faith we need to respond (John 6:44; Ephesians 2:8–9). Due to this spiritual precedent, it seems clear that God’s design was for the man to bear the responsibility of pursuing the woman he loves until he proposes marriage.

But not all relationships follow the same pattern. Every romance is different, and therefore the particulars of a couple’s engagement will be unique to that couple. Some of the healthiest marriages were mutually decided as the couple spent a significant amount of time getting to know each other. As they served the Lord together, they came to see the benefit of a lifelong commitment. They began to discuss the “what if’s” of a life together, and, when the time was right, the man proposed with a ring to signify his commitment. The proposal wasn’t a surprise, but neither did she take the lead in the matter. They had already decided to move forward, and the actual proposal was a confirmation of that mutual decision.

In modern culture, the boy/girl dance of romantic commitment has been hijacked by rampant immorality and living together without marriage. This dynamic throws everything else out of sync by introducing tensions, emotions, fears, and guilt that was never to be part of an engagement. Even the concept of an engaged couple has come to include a couple living together, presumably planning to marry at some undetermined future date. It is often the woman who secretly regrets this lack of commitment and begins to pressure her bed-mate to marry her. Sometimes there are already children involved, which was never God’s intent when He created marriage (Genesis 2:24; Mark 10:7).

It would appear from the biblical patterns that it is God’s intention that a man take the initiative in proposing, leading, serving, and providing for the woman he chooses. For an impatient bride-to-be to circumvent that pattern could result in a marriage that is out of balance and one in which both spouses come to resent this backward dynamic. It may be wise for all women desiring to marry to keep this thought as a guide: If he won’t propose, he won’t lead in other ways. I don’t want to pledge my life to a man who won’t even honor me by asking.

Aside from equal opportunity, ladies should ask guys out to avoid the stress of waiting for him to initiate contact. The male will most likely be charmed by the girl’s honesty and become even more drawn to her. Inviting someone out is always a risk. If she rejects you, just move on to the next girl!

If a girl doesn’t give you reason not to go out with her, then do so! Waiting for a girl to ask you out ensures that you will never date anyone. If you are both into each other, she will make time to see you. Asking her first ensures that there will be no confusion about your intentions.

The only people who won’t like being asked out are those who aren’t ready to be asked. If a girl asks too many boys out at once, they may all want to go together which will result in one or two of them not going. This is why it is best to wait until you are sure that you both want to go out before asking everyone involved out at once.

Asking a girl out gives her power over you. She can say yes or no and if she says no, there’s nothing else to discuss it. Therefore, it is best to ask her out in a polite manner so there are no misunderstandings later on.

Table of Contents

  1. Should a girl ask a guy out?
  2. Is it acceptable for a woman to ask a man out?
  3. Is it weird for a girl to ask out a guy?
  4. Are guys supposed to ask girls out?
  5. Should I directly ask a girl out?

Is it acceptable for a woman to ask a man out?

Yes, girls may and should ask men out. Savana Ogburn took the photos. Even though it is 2019, there is still a lot of pressure on women who are interested in men to wait to be asked out on a date. Waiting allows women to save their energy for what’s important: how they look and feel inside and out. It also gives men time to change their mind or lose interest.

Asking someone out doesn’t have to be done face-to-face. An email or text message can work just as well (or even better if you’re having trouble thinking of something to say).

It’s not only acceptable but also recommended for women to ask men out. If you don’t, they might think that you are either not interesting in them or not ready yet to be dated. Being asked out gives men the opportunity to make a good first impression while giving women time to reflect on whether they want to go out with him.

Women have been asking men out since the beginning of time. It’s a natural thing for a woman to do if she is interested in a man. Asking a man out shows that you are taking an interest in him and that you are comfortable being close to him. This makes him want to know you more and possibly see you again sometime.

Is it weird for a girl to ask out a guy?

Is it strange for a lady to ask a guy out? Never, despite the fact that men are predisposed to be chasers by nature. If you want to ask a guy out, do it in such a way that he appears to be the one doing the asking.

The idea of women begging men to take them out on dates is extremely rare these days. In most cases, the woman makes the first move and if she doesn’t get the response she’s looking for, then she goes back to her boyfriend or husband or friend or family member without giving up. Sometimes a woman will go out with several different men before finding the right one. This is called dating. ” — Quora

So, no, it isn’t strange at all. It actually shows that you have good taste!

Are guys supposed to ask girls out?

Anyone can invite anyone they wish. However, in general, boys are more likely to ask ladies out. Don’t expect her to ask you out if you’re a male. If you’re a girl, don’t be shocked if you get asked out. It happens all the time!

The only way to not get asked out is not to exist. That’s right, if there were no guys around, girls would have no reason to ask anybody out. So basically, if you want to not get asked out, stop existing.

Asking someone out is just a polite thing to do before going out with them. It shows that you are interested in them and they show interest in you. There are many other ways to go about getting someone to like you back including making friends first, but asking out is one of the easiest and most effective ways to get into dating mode.

Sometimes people may seem too nice to be true, so it’s best to wait until after you’ve gone out with them to see how they act once you leave their presence. For example, if they seem too eager to go out or seem like they’re only using you as a date, then drop them immediately. You don’t want to get involved with someone who isn’t going to stand by you in times of need.

Should I directly ask a girl out?

There is no right or wrong moment to ask a lady out on a date, just as there is no right or wrong time to get married, have a baby, or start a business. Learn how to tell whether a lady likes you if you’re not sure if she’s interested. So, if you’re intrigued, go ahead and ask her out. Will she refuse? Perhaps, but you won’t know unless you ask.

The most effective way to find out if a woman wants to go out with you is to ask her. If she says yes, great! You’ve found an interesting thing in your audience that we call a “match”. If she says no, that’s fine too. Just try another woman.

Women like men who are confident enough to ask them out. It shows that you are not afraid of rejection and that you have some courage. Most women will say no if they aren’t interested, but some may feel guilty about it and want to give you a second chance. Use your best judgment when asking women out. If you don’t ask, you’ll never know.

Asking a woman out is easy. She’ll be thrilled that you thought of her and made an effort to take her out. Giving her time and attention is another story. but that’s what makes relationships work. Be aware of other people’s feelings and don’t hurt others’ interests by asking someone out who doesn’t want to be asked. That’s called “out-of-band communication” and it’s frowned upon by society.

Before I begin, I would like to tell you that since this myTake is from a guy’s perspective, some signs shown by girls may be interpreted wrongly, so please correct me where I am wrong.

Secondly, since this is my personal experience, things in your life may vary but still, here it goes.

How to know if you are handsome

1. Behaviour of the girls

The most common sign is that you see girls and ladies staring at you. It may happen if you look shabby (if you look shabby, then you know) or there was something wrong with you that day like you had a stain on your clothes or your hair were messed up. If the looks continue, then you know what they’re for.

Here you’ll see two types of girls:

1. The ones who’ll quickly look away when caught staring: these girls don’t want to show their interest in you or don’t want to make it obvious that they find you attractive. So they’ll just quickly look away when you catch them staring at you.

2. Girls who won’t back off: some girls won’t look away but hold the gaze and keep on eye balling you even after getting caught. The reason is simple, they want you to know that they’re interested in you.

2. See for yourself

When you see yourself in a mirror, you’ll easily come to know if you’re handsome or not. I mean really, we can easily judge people on how they look so it won’t be problematic to figure out how you look.

3. Keep your ears open for compliments

You may hear compliments on how attractive you look from your friends and acquaintances. Now, I won’t say that girls don’t complement handsome guys in how attractive they are, indeed they would sometimes. Probably because you’re already friends with them or they know you in one way or the other.

In my case, girls never complemented me, they never even talked to me. I am yet to find out that reason. If you know please let me know. But they commented on my looks while in a group. They used to call me ‘sexy’, ‘ hottie’ and what not.

4. Do you smell something burning?

Watch out for other guys’ behaviour towards you. They may go to such an extent that you can conclude that they are implying very indirectly that you aren’t good looking or that you’re very arrogant because of your looks even when you’re not that good looking or say that ‘okay, you’re good looking, so what the big deal?’. You can also observe them getting cocky around you, mimicking your way of walking/talking or even copy your hairstyle but won’t admit. Some guys will unnecessarily get competitive around you and will constantly try to prove themselves superior or better than you.

My advice, let the children play. People do very well know you so don’t get down to their level and react something childish. Once they know that the joke is on them, they’ll stop eventually.

Some people will call you ‘girlfriend-snatcher’. Their girl may become interested in you and leave them for such reason. And now, you have one more enemy to your never-ending list. Keeps on happening to me all the time, first, I was like ‘Wtf!? Really?’ and now I am like ‘ah, okay’. I had to skill up my combat skills and chisel up my body structure and physique so that if one maniac comes to blows for such a petty reason, I may show him something. Now I have a nice body too, ‘look at him, as if his face was not enough to impress the girls, now he has got abs too, what a show-off. Jerk’ and thanks a lot.

5. ‘You’re gay’

Seriously people? Gay? Simply wow.

Whenever you get a shave or a new haircut, congrats, you look like a gay to ‘them’. That’s one of the sign of insecurity of jealous guys of course. I admit, I once reacted to it saying one of them to look at his fat chest and my 5.5 inch long organ and then call me gay, rude I know, sorry, but no sorry.

Seriously, other guys are jealous of handsome guys’ looks, reason being simple, they want women too, but the women preferably choose good looking guys, especially in their teenage. And that’s also a high time for other guys to feel the urge to get a girl and not getting the girl makes you their target. If you are buffed and intimidating, expect them to comment on your looks and then hiding their face.

You have two options now,

Option 1, ignore them, they’ll stop they get tired.

Option 2, confront them and shut em up for good, it’s your call.

6. You get high attention of the teachers and almost everyone knows you

You’ll see that almost everyone knows you and your name. Although, some people may not admit it, insecurity again, but still they do know you.

Thank you for reading it.