How to act friendly

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There is a lot of talk about going green. Thankfully governments, businesses and individuals around the world are beginning to take actions to back up that talk. From opting for alternative energies such as wind, hydro or the solar panels at to switching to lower emission transportation options, from growing their own food to putting reduce, recycle, reuse and even precycle plans into place. If you look at it, making life more environmentally-friendly simply makes sense.

If your day-to-day actions are more environmentally-friendly you not only help the environment, but you can benefit financially, physically and mentally as well. For example, getting rid of toxic chemicals in your home and using natural cleaners will cost less, it will cut down on the number of toxins you are exposing yourself and the environment to and it will have a more positive impact on your indoor air quality. I could go on and on, but instead, let me give you 50 simple ways you can make your day-to-day life more environmentally-friendly:

1 – Grow your own food.
2 – Eat less meat.
3 – Cut down on processed foods.
4 – Don’t eat foods or drink from BPA-lined containers.
5 – Open windows to let in fresh air.
6 – Open blinds to let in natural light.
7 – Fight “vampire power”.
8 – Get energy-efficient appliances and electronics.
9 – Take shorter showers.
10 – Wash clothes using cold water.
11 – Hang clothes on a clothesline to dry.
12 – Use leftover bathwater or “greywater” to water plants.
13 – Turn off lights when not in use.
14 – Turn off water when brushing teeth.
15 – Don’t let water run while washing dishes.
16 – Run the dishwasher or washing machine only when there is a full load.
17 – Use waterless car wash to wash your car or bike.
18 – Take public transportation.
19 – Walk or ride your bike.
20 – Use a proven fuel additive when you do drive.
21 – Combine multiple errands into one trip.
22 – Get rid of chemical cleaners.
23 – Use natural materials to clean.
24 – Make your own natural shampoo.
25 – Make your own natural lotion, skin masks and cleansers.

26 – Get outside every day for some sunlight and fresh air.
27 – Print documents as little as possible.
28 – Recycle bottles, cans, newspapers, etc.
29 – Donate items you no longer need or use.
30 – Use reusable bags at the grocery store.
31 – Use reusable containers at home.
32 – Make meals using leftovers.
33 – Freeze foods before it goes bad.
34 – Reduce your food waste.
35 – Compost.
36 – Plant a tree.
37 – Start or contribute to a community garden.
38 – Landscape your own yard with native plants.
39 – Buy used rather than new.
40 – Set thermostat 1-2 degrees lower.
41 – Get a reusable water bottle (and use it!).
42 – Opt for paperless billing.
43 – Pay your bills electronically.
44 – Do a home energy audit.
45 – Fix any leaky faucets to prevent water waste.
46 – Turn old t-shirts into “new” cleaning rags.
47 – Get rid of one-use items (disposable razors, diapers, plasticware, etc).
48 – Read magazines, newspapers and other publications online.
49 – Unsubscribe or cancel all junk mail.
50 – Unplug at least once a day so that you can enjoy nature and the environment around you.

One key thing to keep in mind as you go about your day-to-day activities is the old Native American proverb,

We do not inherit the earth from our ancestors, we borrow it from our children.

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With that in mind see how many of these 50 simple ways to make your life more environmentally-friendly you can implement into your life. And yes, there are many other ways people can green their lives, but I figured these 50 ways made for a good start. I’d love to hear what steps you are taking to make your life more environmentally-friendly!

How to act friendly

While the coronavirus pandemic may have been the talk of the town recently, climate change hasn’t exactly gone away. In fact, it’s becoming more and more of a pressing concern, which means living sustainably is key.

Following the release of David Attenborough’s various documentaries on the BBC and Netflix, as well as the concerning statistics frequently reported by NASA, National Geographic and the World Health Organization, climate change is an issue we all need to play our part in resolving.

While many of us will have already made several home, personal and lifestyle eco-life hacks – recycling more often, using renewable energy, limiting car use – there is always more we can do collectively to limit the impact.

After the previous year, and all had to endure, what better time is there to do exactly that?

Join us as we run through a few ideas as to how to live more sustainably in 2021 – a year where the coronavirus pandemic should fade into the distance and we’ll all – hopefully – be able to make up for some lost time.

Change Your Eating Habits

The dairy and meat industries account for a huge percentage of the world’s total gas emissions. The beef industry alone emits 150 billion gallons of methane every day.

What’s more, the amount of land and water required for livestock is incredibly uneconomical; globally 85% of agricultural land is used for animal agriculture, with almost 2,400 gallons of water needed to produce just one pound of beef.

Therefore, by making a few small changes to your diet, you could make a huge impact on your carbon footprint. Whether you decide to go meat-free once a week or become a devout vegan, the choice is yours.

Protect The Pests

Insect populations have been on a rapid decline, over the past few decades, with the quality of soil being hugely degraded as a direct result.

While yes, insects can be annoying at times, the role certain populations play in maintaining the planet’s biodiversity is vital. Without plant-pollinating insects like bees, for example, many plants and ecosystems wouldn’t be able to grow in the same way, leaving your garden looking a lot shoddier as a result.

Therefore, to help instead of hinder insect populations, why not make a few small changes to your gardening?

Whether you decide to stop using pesticide, grow insect-friendly plants, plant more trees, build a pond, create a compost heap or cut back on your lawn mowing, whatever you do could not only make a big difference to your garden’s look, but its total biodiversity as well.

Think About Travel

While the coronavirus pandemic may have put your travel plans on the back burner for the time being, many of us will be itching to get away somewhere at the next available opportunity.

However, when you do travel, try to think of ways you could get to your destination without harming the planet.

While flying may be a lot quicker and easier, generally speaking, it’s also one of the least sustainable methods of transport, pumping huge amounts of carbon dioxide into the atmosphere above our heads.

So, why not think about heading out on an interrailing adventure around Europe instead? Or limit your flights to only one or two a year? As long as you book your next trip with sustainable transportation in mind, you’ll be playing your part.

Encourage Each Other

As I said at the start of this article, it’s all well and good one person thinking and acting more sustainably but, we all need to act as a collective if we really want to make a lasting difference.

Encourage your friends, family, loved ones and other members of the public to get involved with becoming more sustainable too.

Even if they only change one of their habits, the more efficiently we’ll be able to make an impact.

Final Thoughts on Living More Sustainably

Climate change isn’t going away. It’s here to stay and, without a collective response, could have a drastic impact on our lives moving forward.

Some argue the impact of climate change is inevitable. There are a number of things we can do over the coming year, however, to turn the tide and slow down its progression.

This can only happen if we all work towards becoming more sustainable. We must set an example for others to follow. Otherwise, we’ll only have ourselves to blame when climate change really does become irreversible.

It’s easy to spend time with chicks, but once they move out of the brooder it can be a bit harder. Coops are busy places with lots of other birds and things to do. It’s much more fun for the little cockerel and he probably won’t be as eager to hang out with people. This is where I don’t give them a choice!

Romeo is our newest cockerel. He is a small breed, but it’s still important that he is brought up with lots of human interaction, after all sometimes those small breeds have the most attitude!

My method is simple. Every morning I pick him up off the roost before he has a chance to jump down. I carry him over to the feed shed to get the feed and some treats. I carry him back and set him down to go about his day.

A few extra treats here and there can go a long way towards winning him over to your side! Make sure to talk to him nicely and say his name as you feed him. Of course as he gets older he may call the girls over as soon as you give him extra treats, and that’s normal.

During the day I spend time with him if I can, but sometimes I can’t get around to it till bedtime. When I go to close them up for the night I pick him up off the roost again and pet and talk to him a bit. As with the hens the more attention you give them, the more they seem to like human interaction.

The more you can visit with him and give him attention, the better results you should get. This type of attention also helps when Adding a full grown Rooster to your Flock.

My blue Marans rooster comes over and starts muttering to me any time he sees me by the feed shed. He knows I’ll give him treats that he can call the girls for. Pretty sure he uses me for treats, but he’s a friendly boy so I let it go! lol

Now I can’t guarantee this will work on every rooster, after all they are individuals. but a good dose of daily human interaction is a great place to start.

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How to act friendly

In our previous articles, we at the team were mostly focused on the usage of chickens as products, which breeds give the best meat, what to feed your chicken to get the best eggs and more.

But from what we`ve learned from some of your e-mails, it seems like some of our regular readers are interested in how to raise friendly chickens.

After doing some research and some discussions we are now ready to give a few tips on how to raise friendly chickens.

1. It`s never too early to start

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After getting your baby chicks, or after hatching – they will be very afraid and confused about everything around them.

Everything will be new to them. Baby chicks don’t have the habits of an adult chicken.

Make sure when you are petting them that you are not using too much force.

Try talking to them, we`ll discuss in a moment why is that important.

If your chicks are hatched, make sure that they spend time bonding with their mothers not only with you.

2. Talking to your chickens & why is that important

Chickens are one of the more intelligent animals on this planet. They have the ability to see in color and they have a big memory.

When you pick your chickens or baby chicks for petting try talking to them in a friendly manner, it is a fact that they will not understand you, but they will remember the sound of your voice.

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By doing this you will help them adapt to your presence in their environment. Soon, consider your lap as a safe and friendly place.

This is very important to do when you are dealing with chicks, because as I said before they are scared and gentle. Spend as much time as you can talking to your chicks. They will grow to be good and friendly chickens and excellent listeners.

3. Why is being patient with them most important

Being patient with them is most important because they still are animals and the size difference between you and them will always put some fear in their eyes.

As much as I like talking the best about chickens I have to say that they can be very stubborn, especially in that period when they stop being the cute little baby chicks and start growing into a healthy chicken.

Especially during the winter and the summer. Between these periods they start being very annoying, something like teenagers, they don’t want to pet and they run from you.

This is normal with chickens of that age.

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It will take a lot of time, patience and effort to make a friendly chicken from your baby chicks but in the end, when that moment comes and this little furry bird jumps on your lap and starts moving its head into your chest area it will all be worth it.

If you have children make sure that you let them play with the baby chicks because I have yet to see a child that does not enjoy playing with them.

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23 Comments on “Tips On How To Raise Friendly Chickens! You will be surprised with Number 2. ”

A couple more tips to add: (1) raising them in a brooder or a box with a light bulb will usually cause chicks to become much tamer than if a broody hen raises them. A mother hen will be protective and herd her babies away from people, thus teaching them to be cautious. (2) But it doesn’t take a lot of effort to tame young birds that have been raised by a hen. After they’ve been separated from the mother (usually when they are fully feathered out) pick up the youngsters and carry them around a few times, speaking softly and stroking them. They get the idea pretty quick. (3) When you pick up a young bird, scoop it up from below rather than grabbing from above. It’s much less scary. Hawks and other predators pounce on young chicks, so any motion coming from above them will frighten them. Hold the baby to your chest, restraining the wings so it can’t struggle, and carry it around. It only takes a few times and they learn not to be afraid.

Thanks alot for ur tips I have a black hen that I’m making as a pet I think its so cute to see a chicken that will come up to u and not be afraid of u u don’t really see that much

So my husband has brought it to my attention many times that I am not the friendliest person. He even said I can be downright mean. The problem is, I don't have mean thoughts but apparently I just have a mean face or my body language makes me look upset. How can I appear nicer/more approachable?

Maybe things you say could come off as patronising without you realising.

Your tone can make your words mean something completely different.

Facial expressions also go a long way. But don't forget, people will also notice forced expressions.

1 rule: don't be a cunt.

Well by mean, does he mean you say mean things or you just look mean?

People look how they look. People have "resting bitch face", or whatever else problems you're dealing with might overlap into your body language, which isn't your fault.

Try to semi smile or avoid frowning, try to make a point of remembering to "lighten" up your face sometimes. I have resting bitchface and people find it 2000x more easy to approach me if I already appear happy.

He didn't say you look mean he said you are mean. Do you do things to hurt others out of spite? Do you point out other people's flaws to them?

Does anyone besides your husband say that you look or act mean? A second opinion may be I order.

Read Dale Carnegie's book: "How to Make Friends and Influence People."

It will solve this dilemma completely.

This seems like a silly request on his part. You’d think he would’ve noticed before you two got married. Maybe he’s feeling sensitive lately.

I guess you could practice being open and responsive when people start conversations with you. Respond in a way that keeps the conversation moving, give multiple word answers, make eye contact, and smile when appropriate. Don’t slouch or cross your arms. Turn your body toward the subject. When talking about how you feel, use “I” statements: “I wish I could help you” “I feel like you don’t understand” “I didn’t mean to appear mean”.

However, you don’t need to apologize all the time as some people do. Trying to be more “nice” can cause a person to become a doormat with no personality; instead, save the “sorry”s for when you really mean it.

All of this takes a lot of work so I’d say it’s only worth the effort when you’re talking to people you care about, like your husband.

Rapport-building is an essential skill for business development, job interviews, negotiations and other high-stakes communications. But sometimes the attempt to be friendly comes across as disingenuous or worse, creepy. Getting too friendly is a common interviewing mistake even experienced, well-meaning people make. Here are five ways to develop rapport while keeping it professional.

Explain Non Sequiturs

One common way people try to develop rapport is by bringing up commonalities. This is a great strategy, and it’s easy to mention if the overlap is professional – same school, same former company, same trade association. But sometimes the overlap isn’t professional – it might be a personal hobby in common or you both come from the same small town. If you just bring up the overlap, it sounds out of place. Instead, just mention your participation in the common hobby and see if the other person makes the connection. Or if there is an obvious transition point, say the hobby is running, the person has a photo display of a previous marathon, and your professional meeting is something involving discipline or persistence or grit, then you might mention you’re also a runner, reference the photo, and make a running analogy around the professional topic at hand. In this way, you are actually building rapport and furthering the discussion around this common bond and not treating the common bond as a non-sequitur.

Source Your Research

What if you want to highlight a common bond that is not so obvious (e.g., there is no photo display to point to)? Be forthcoming about the research behind your information. In advance of our meeting, I looked at your website, read the latest press releases and I noticed on LinkedIn that you are a runner. The research you list makes sense, and the LinkedIn part is logical in light of your overall meeting preparation. In this context, it does not seem like a voyeuristic side project. I don’t think twice when someone says that they have looked at my LinkedIn profile, but I’m in professional services so active networking is part of my job. Other people are not as comfortable when you reveal you know about their background. Make sure you mention where you saw their profile or which article mentioned them or what public and openly accessible way you have gleaned the information you reference.

Remember That Everything Is Better In Moderation

If you develop rapport by an outside connection, mention one or two items in common. If you develop rapport by using humor, by all means use it in one or two of your lines. But don’t make every line a joke, or don’t make every point about how much you have in common. Everything is better in moderation. I once interviewed a candidate who had a witty sense of humor. It was effervescent and engaging at the outset, but with every response including a funny sidebar, that witty advantage quickly devolved into an annoyance. I started to question this candidate’s professional judgment and executive presence. You absolutely want to show personality, but when in doubt, tone it down.

Take Your Cues From The Other Person

One way to gauge how much you can share (of your outsize personality or of your off-road topics) is to take your cues from what the other person does. If the other person seems keen to continue discussing the hobbies and other interests in common, then you have an invitation to continue. If the other person laughs or jokes back, then you might continue the banter. If the other person isn’t responsive or changes the subject or tone, redirect your subject and tone. Keep in mind that even if the other person seems open to going off-topic or joking around, you still want to rein in the conversation enough that you cover the professional business you are supposed to cover. If a job interview, for example, lingers too long around personal small talk and not on professional skills and background, then the interviewer will have less evidence to back up your case for moving forward in the process. Even if it’s the interviewer’s fault, s/he is not going to admit s/he got off-topic and may just agree not to move you forward, rather than fight for your case. Personal rapport is not meant to be a substitute for a professional substantive conversation.

Go Back To The Basics

Overdoing it on rapport building is sometimes due to thinking you have to do something extraordinary to communicate well. Most of effective communication, however, comes down to mastering the basics – handshake, eye contact, poise, manners, content, delivery, listening. Is your handshake good enough for Goldilocks – not too soft, not too hard? Is your eye contact confident, but not exhausting? You want to look directly at the other person some of the time but also look away at regular intervals to avoid a stare down. Do you walk with good posture, dress appropriately for the circumstances and environment, carry yourself in an assured manner and otherwise project a relaxed confidence? Do you follow good manners – e.g., wait till you’re asked to sit or stand up as the other person arrives if you’re already seated? Do you have something substantive to say? Do you speak clearly, with energy and with emotion? Do you actively listen, nodding or otherwise gesturing your participation in the conversation and responding appropriately? Don’t be so fixated on doing something special to get likeability points that you forget all the other elements of the conversation.

Caroline Ceniza-Levine is a career and business coach with SixFigureStart®. She has worked with executives from Amazon, American Express , Condé Nast, Gilt, Goldman Sachs, Google , McKinsey and other leading firms. She’s also a stand-up comic, so she’s not your typical coach.

“He’s really a great guy, though.”

“I know this isn’t okay, but she’s made me feel so special, and I just love her so much.”

“They were so loving and sweet. The good times are the best I’ve ever had.”

We often hear statements like this from people who contact us. Many struggle to understand why their partners, who were once incredibly kind and loving, now treat them in hurtful and abusive ways. It can be so confusing because the abuse isn’t constant. Most partners aren’t abusive all the time, so it makes sense to think they could go back to being that “kind and loving” person and stay there. In most of these relationships, though, when a partner acts nice, it’s really just that: an act. Thinking about their behavior in this way can be helpful by allowing you the space to prioritize your safety and well-being.

Abusive Partners: A Play in Four Acts

How Abusive Partners Initiate Relationships

A common trait of many abusive partners is that they are really charming, especially at the beginning of a relationship and in the first stages of dating. You might begin to feel like they understand you better than any other partners before and can treat you better because of it. Under these conditions, it would be hard for anyone not to become really attached and develop strong feelings of love unlike anything they’ve felt in the past. We also hear from a lot of survivors of abuse that their relationship moved faster than they were comfortable with in the beginning because their abusive partner “swept them off their feet.” There are two sides to this coin, though. Being treated in new ways can be a really great thing, but it also means not knowing what to expect or how to respond to new behavior. Abusive and controlling partners will slowly start to choose unhealthy and then abusive behaviors. It becomes difficult to identify whether what’s happening is healthy, and it’s easier to excuse this behavior since you’re focused on how different and great things had been until now.

Act II: Putting on the Show

How Abusive Partners Maintain the Control They’ve Taken

Just as their initial charm was a part of their act, so are the times when they return to that good behavior. When the unhealthy or abusive behavior begins to escalate, you may have a gut instinct that something isn’t right, even if it’s hard to figure out why. But, it can be tough to trust that instinct, especially after seeing all that great behavior in the beginning of the relationship. Abusive partners acknowledge this instinct, and that’s one reason why abusive relationships usually don’t start out with abuse. The escalation tends to happen over time after they have shown you their charming act.

However, that doesn’t mean the escalation of abusive behavior is predictable. As we’ve said before, the phrase “cycle of abuse” isn’t entirely accurate because it implies patterns and levels that can be measured or predicted. You might want to know how bad is “too bad” and where you should draw the line, but that’s not a question anyone else can answer for you. Since abusive behavior is a choice, it happens when that person chooses it, which isn’t something you can predict. The loving, kind, sweet act they put on for you is a primary tactic they use to maintain the control they’ve taken. Moving back and forth between the good and bad behavior is an intentional manipulation tactic that plays upon your desire for them to return to the good behavior. You may find yourself questioning your own actions, especially if they blame you for their abusive behaviors because clearly, they can choose to behave lovingly. But it’s important to recognize that their minimizing and excuses for the behavior are part of the abuse, too. If they were abusive all the time, you might be more likely to leave or seek help sooner, since you wouldn’t be reminded of how it used to be.

Act III: The Audience Response

What Others Say About the Abuser

Another aspect of the abuser’s performance that makes it really difficult to see things clearly is that their partners are usually, though not always, the only ones who get to see both of the parts they play. People with controlling, unhealthy and abusive attitudes know their behavior is not okay. That’s why they don’t show it to most of the people in their lives or treat others with the same level of abuse. This can add to a victim’s confusion. When everyone else is saying how great they are and admiring their charming behavior, it might validate the hope that the good behavior is the “real” person. It can be incredibly hard to trust your instincts if you think you’re the only person worried that something isn’t right, or like you’re the one causing the abuse.

An additional complication is the fact that gaslighting is one of the most common and effective abuse tactics. With this tactic, an abuser actively tries to make their victim question reality or if what they believe is actually true. If you’re constantly questioning your reality or your partner’s behavior, one helpful thing to do is to keep a journal (if it’s safe for you to do so, and you’re able to keep it in a place your abusive partner does not have access to).

With all of these layers, it’s understandable that someone would focus on the good and ignore the bad. However, no one should ever have to experience hurtful or abusive behavior for any reason. Everyone deserves respect and equality in their relationship at all times.

Act IV: Performance Review

Evaluating and Reframing the Good Behavior

Thinking about a partner’s “good behavior” in this way can be helpful for those still in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, as well as for those who question their decision after leaving. Constantly wondering which behaviors are the “real” person is absolutely normal and valid, no matter how hurtful a partner has been or for how long. People who choose to be abusive often have an underlying attitude of entitlement and privilege, which is something that is very difficult to change. Apologizing and temporarily acting “nice” again are not true indications of change. Real change takes time and a tremendous amount of effort and commitment.

The full version of stealth puzzle game/breaking-and-entering simulator Hello Neighbor finally saw official release after a host of fun alpha releases polishing off the mechanics.

Even with all that fan input over the last year, some new players have struggled to make it past the neighbor and successfully explore the interior of his mysterious abode.

There was hope for those who couldn’t overcome the diabolical neighbor and his nefarious traps, as a patch was just released adding in a new toggle option titled Friendly Mode.

As with most of the game’s mechanics, there’s no description of what exactly this toggle changes or how Friendly Mode is different from a standard run through. Here’s what one member of the development crew had to say about the new option:

Easy Mode . or Not

If you were having problems constantly getting caught or even just making it into the house, you can toggle this option during an existing game and don’t even have to restart.

Sadly, Hello Neighbor‘s Friendly Mode doesn’t actually seem to do what the developers intended at this point! There’s been no noticeable change in standard detection or chasing behavior.

In fact, in my run through, he seemed to get more aggressive, jumping through windows to reach me when he didn’t normally do that before. He still throws pots or other objects, still chases, still drops bear traps or turns on cameras and lights, etc. In some cases, the neighbor seems to notice you through a wall even if you are sneaking and have closed everything behind you.

More than a few players are baffled by what exactly this option tweaks in the AI, with several Steam threads that can basically be boiled down to “What the hell does Friendly Mode mode even do. ” now at the top of the discussions page.

How to act friendly Now that I’ve got the basement key, he seems even more hyper-aware of my every move!

Hello Neighbor Friendly Mode AI Modifications

There was one verifiable change I was able to discover, and it seems to be more a bug than a new feature released on purpose.

Apparently, now the neighbor can get stuck doing calisthenics in odd locations where he wouldn’t normally engage in that behavior. Yes, you can absolutely use this to your advantage if you’ve gotten frustrated trying to reach a certain item or room.

In the first act, for instance, I lured the neighbor out into the street and slightly away from the house. For some reason, he chased me down the street past the point in his yard where he doesn’t normally run, and then engaged in his typical AI routines like he was in his living room, but never left.

I was able to complete the entire basement segment — normally extremely challenging with the neighbor chasing you the whole time — without him ever even returning to the house.

How to act friendly He’s seriously doing jumping jacks out in the street . and never stops!

It seems like a pretty good bet that this is not the AI behavior change the developers had intended, taking it from “too hard” to “the neighbor literally doesn’t even enter the house,” so expect a patch changing this up in the near future.

Whenever a new version of Hello Neighbor’s Friendly option arrives, or when there’s an update from TinyBuild about the odd AI behavior situation, we’ll update this article with additional info on the game’s new mode.

Have you noticed any other changes with Friendly Mode? Let us know in the comments below!

For those who haven’t managed to find all the secrets and reach the basement yet, be sure to check out our full guide to completing Hello Neighbor Act I and learn the ropes on how to break into the house undetected.

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Job interviews don't have to be dry and boring. In fact, they shouldn't be. It's important to act professionally, of course, but it's also important to show your personality to the interviewer.

However, you don’t want to go overboard and overwhelm the hiring manager—this isn’t a party or family gathering. Read on to learn how to show your personality at a job interview.

Why Personality Matters

Employers want to know that you are qualified for a position, but they also want to know how well you’ll fit in with the company culture. The only way to assess this is to get a sense of your personality.

The more personable you are and the more you connect with the interviewer, the better your chances of being selected for the job.

How important is personality? An Accountemps Survey reported that 79% of chief financial officers (CFOs) interviewed said an employee's sense of humor is important for fitting into company culture.  

That said, there's a fine line between being engaging, amusing, and overdoing it. What’s important is to show the interviewer that you're personable and easy to get along with. Companies don’t like having to manage difficult employees, so if you can show that you’ve got the right personality it can help you get hired.

How to Let Your Personality Shine at a Job Interview

So, what's the best way to showcase your personality during an interview? Basically, relax and be yourself. But if that sounds scary, go ahead and read the following tips for letting your personality shine during a job interview:

Come Prepared and Relaxed

By coming into the interview feeling calm and collected, you will be able to focus on letting your personality, rather than your nerves, come through. Practice answering common interview questions beforehand to boost your confidence. Find a friend or colleague who’s willing to act as the interviewer and read the questions to you so that you can practice answering out loud.

Also consider employing some relaxation techniques (like deep breathing or meditation) right before the interview. Coming to the interview relaxed and prepared will help you to feel at ease and to focus on putting your best foot forward.

Be Friendly and Engaging

Greet each person you meet with a friendly handshake and warm smile. First impressions are extremely important, so demonstrate confidence right away. Stand tall, make eye contact, and give a firm handshake and a smile when you meet the interviewer. Managers want to hire people they’ll enjoy working with, so show you are approachable and have a positive disposition.

If you’re interviewing remotely, be sure to smile and keep your gaze focused on the camera so it looks like you’re making eye contact.

Watch Your Body Language

Be aware of your body language. After the initial greeting, you want to continue to appear confident. Posture is important so don’t slouch. Stand or sit up straight and try to avoid any nervous habits (tapping your foot, biting your nails, etc.) that could make you appear nervous and unprepared.

It’s also a good idea to avoid crossing your arms, as this makes you look unapproachable. Staying calm and still with good posture is a great way to demonstrate your confidence and approachability.

Don’t be Afraid to Show Your Sense of Humor

Don't go into the meeting looking to deliver a standup routine, but also don't be afraid to show your sense of humor. If appropriate, laugh at yourself or a funny comment the hiring manager makes, but avoid sarcasm, off-color remarks, or inappropriate jokes—this isn’t the time to show how edgy you are.

Just be friendly, witty, and personable, but don’t get too far away from who you are. And don’t forget that a genuine smile can go a long way towards demonstrating your friendly personality.

Share Examples and Stories

Give specific examples from your past experiences when answering questions. This will not only give you a chance to support your answers with examples, but it will also give the interviewer a sense of how your personality has helped you achieve success in the past.

For example, describing a specific time when you successfully led a team project will demonstrate your confidence and leadership more than a hypothetical situation.

Keep it Positive

When answering questions, don’t dwell on your negative experiences. For example, if the interviewer asked why you left your most recent position, don’t dwell on what you disliked about your previous job or blurt out how much you hated your boss.

Instead, talk about the positive experiences you hadand discuss how you can help this company. Stay focused on what excites you about the job at hand.

You can be yourself, be authentic, and get that job offer after the interview.

Keep in mind that interviewers want to see the real you and how you react under pressure. By remaining honest but polite, and by appearing composed during the meeting, you'll highlight your strengths and ability to work well as part of a team, even in trying situations.