One of the most frustrating parts of a breakup is reorganizing routines in your life that had taken on their own form within a relationship. Whether you dated for six months or two years, the nature of a relationship can transform a random space into “our space,” and returning to these areas in your life post-split, whether they’re physical (like your favorite ice cream shop) or emotional (like the first song you held hands to), might be painful in the immediate aftermath. But while finding a new coffee shop or binge-worthy TV show that doesn’t remind you of your ex can be easy, navigating the nonnegotiable aspects of your day, like your class schedule, or a project you signed up for when you were still a couple, can be tough, especially if your feelings about the relationship are still raw.
“When relationships end, individuals tend to go to through the stages of grief — denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance,” says Talkspace therapist Rachel O’Neill, Ph.D, LPCC-S. “There’s no right way to go through these stages, and it’s OK if you’re upset, even if some time has passed since the breakup.”
O’Neill says giving your feelings some space and allowing yourself to experience emotions are key when going through the sadness of a breakup but notes that this can be tricky at school.
“Be proactive in thinking about how you might feel when you see them,” she says. “What will it be like? How will you react? Having a plan in place to help deal with your feelings can help you to feel in control of your reaction.”
To help make your own plan for reentering a routine post-split, Teen Vogue spoke to O’Neill and her fellow Talkspace therapist Cynthia Catchings, LCSW-S, about what to avoid, what to jump into, and what to tell your friends to make sure ending a relationship won’t interfere with your day at school. Here are seven ways to make Monday through Friday much easier after a breakup.
Keep things moving.
If the thought of seeing your ex in the hallways brings you to a screeching halt, Catchings says, you’re not alone — and the best solution is to just walk through it.
“Seeing your ex after breaking up can be an unpleasant experience if things are still tender,” she says. “The best advice is to keep it short and respectful, unless it is necessary to clarify something to be able to move on. This might not be the moment to get emotional, and having a plan might be of help to avoid a tear or two.”
She suggests imagining a few scenarios in which you run into your ex to prepare yourself for what you might say before all the memories hit. In the moment, i.e., walking to lunch a few steps behind your ex, she also notes that there’s no shame in mentally checking out — daydreaming about being somewhere else when you’re going through heartbreak is totally acceptable.
If you get overwhelmed, let yourself feel it — just maybe not in class.
It’s painful to end a relationship, and the aftermath of a breakup can make otherwise uneventful moments feel overrun with significance. If doing your math homework reminds you of helping your ex out with geometry and you find yourself on the verge of tears, O’Neill says letting yourself deal with the intensity of the emotion is a great way to deal with it, and giving yourself a moment to check out and feel everything is no big deal. But if that wave comes when you’re in the middle of an algebra exam and can’t exactly duck out for a brief cry, she suggests grounding techniques like saying the alphabet backward or counting to 100 to distract yourself.
If you ended things, be respectful.
If you were the one to pull the plug on your relationship, O’Neill says it’s important to think about how you’d want to be treated if the tables were turned and take the necessary steps to avoid adding additional pain, whether that means keeping a new relationship off social media for a while, or keeping the private elements of your relationship to yourself, even after you’re no longer a couple. At school, it’s a good idea to stay neutral and try to assess your new roles to each other as you go.
“A respectful hi and a smile can go a long way when you encounter an ex,” says Catchings of day-to-day encounters. “If you want to be kind and make it easier on your ex, observe your ex’s body language. Let it tell you how he/she/they feel. If the body language is open, ask how things are going or compliment them by saying an article they are wearing is nice. Positive comments are a must. If you can’t find something nice to say, smile and let your ex know it was nice to see him/her/them and bounce.”
Tell your friends what you need from them.
A relationship often comes with a merger of friends, if it didn’t blossom from the same group of friends to begin with. This is great when it’s happening — who doesn’t want more friends? — but can feel stressful when you decide to split up. But the end of a couple doesn’t need to mean the end of a friend group.
“The whole idea about being team Joe or team Jane after a breakup is old news,” Catchings says. “If we have friends in common, or just need to talk to our own friends about respecting our breakup, being direct is the best way to do it. Be nice when you talk to others about ways to respect your breakup, and offer an explanation only if necessary. True friends understand and support you without asking questions that might hurt you or your ex.”
O’Neill notes that setting ground rules with your friends, like that you don’t want to hear about your ex’s new love life, can be super helpful. And you need to avoid gossiping about your ex, too — just tell your friends you still care about your ex’s feelings and don’t want to talk about them, even if you did break up.
When beginning a new relationship, spend intimate, quality time with the guy you like to build a lasting friendship. When you’ve just entered a relationship with your boyfriend, you’re likely to still be adjusting to the newness of everything and not know quite how to act. Over time you’ll gain the comfort from being around him and learn each other’s quirks, but as a general rule of thumb, your best bet is to be yourself.
Be yourself. Channel the personality that got you two together in the first place by being yourself. Avoid putting on an act so that he gets a chance to learn and like you for you. Know that it’s okay to be silly or quirky if that’s your natural attitude towards life.If you appear to be something other than what you really are, the deceit will eventually come out and create a problem in the relationship.
- When beginning a new relationship, spend intimate, quality time with the guy you like to build a lasting friendship.
- Avoid putting on an act so that he gets a chance to learn and like you for you.
Be a good friend. Remember that, as his girlfriend, one of your most important duties is to be an ideal friend to him. Listen to him when he has a problem or is excited about something new in his life. Offer to help out whenever you can.
Do things to make him happy. Pick up little things you know he needs or wants while you’re at the store, like his favorite snack or something you know he needs for a special project. Spend plenty of time together and communicate often. Enjoy your new relationship status and give it the nurturing it needs.
- Remember that, as his girlfriend, one of your most important duties is to be an ideal friend to him.
- Pick up little things you know he needs or wants while you’re at the store, like his favorite snack or something you know he needs for a special project.
Share activities together. Participate in interests that you share as well as those you do not. Allow him to expose you to doing things he likes and be willing to show him things you like to do. Try something neither of you have done, from going jet skiing and hiking to painting and taking in some exercise. Get out and about and enjoy being a couple.
- Share activities together.
- Allow him to expose you to doing things he likes and be willing to show him things you like to do.
Rid yourself of your ex. Give your new relationship a chance to grow and develop without a pesky, lingering ex resurfacing. Have a clear conversation with your boyfriend that sets up some general rules about how you both will handle issues from your past so you’re discussing them as a team and not hiding things from each other.
Give each other natural space. Space out your time together so that you don’t smother each other. Be confident within your relationship to know that the two of you do not have to be joined at the hip to be in a solid relationship. Encourage him to go out with his friends and you do the same so that you can appreciate your time apart when you see each other again.
If you made it through middle school without having to deal with your daughter’s first boyfriend, consider yourself lucky. Once the hormones hit, life amongst the happy family changes drastically and the introduction of a boyfriend can be one of the most troubling, especially the first! Take a deep breath; realize that like potty training, this too is just a phase. Unfortunately, it probably won’t pass anytime soon.
The first advice for mom and dad is to keep your head. Young girls can get awful caught up in their first romance and having parents breathing down their neck and continuously forbidding the relationship or voicing their disappointment will only make her efforts to remain connected be more adamant. If you can accept the boyfriend, invite him to dinner and make her see that you won’t embarrass her silly, you will be setting yourself up for better teenage years that include honestly and forthrightness. If you react contrary to what makes her feel supported, chances are she will choose to hide things. Certainly, you don’t want all the gory details about the relationship, but keep your eyes and ears peeled for the important ones.
The time spent together can be disrupted. For her protection and sanity, demand that she continue to see her friends, engage in her normal extra curricular activities and have more on her plate than daydreams of a squeaky voiced boy. This way when he or she moves on, she won’t run into a wall of depression and pain. Perhaps the worst part of your daughter’s first boyfriend is that your daughter’s first heartbreak is right around the corner. This is one of the reasons it is so vital that you keep her busy whilst allowing time for the ‘intruder.’
Also, make the two of them feel welcome at your house. This means letting them watch TV together in the basement, having him for dinner and not minding if he comes home to do homework with her. Ultimately, you would rather depend on your watchful eye than have to trust that HIS parents are home. If they feel welcome and sense that they are getting an appropriate amount of privacy, they will not feel the urge to lie, sneak or hide things. Yes, it might be difficult to watch your favorite sitcom thinking that your little Sally might be learning how to french kiss in the basement, but at least you can walk down there at anytime and ruin it for them. And you should!
Speaking of French kissing, understand without a doubt that your children know much more about sex than you think they do. If you haven’t scanned their emails or tried to translate their text messages by now, you might want to take a look! Still, you should have the talk and have it often! In fact, bring it up every chance you get! This means asserting your position on abstinence and morality and allowing your daughter to know the difference between love and attraction and consenting and feeling pressured. Outline the fiascos that can occur by having sex and stress the importance of waiting. While telling her that there will be plenty of other boys in her life will make no impact at this point, rest assured she is listening. Dad has a voice in this too. He is the one that can remember being the teenage boy and any additives to the mix however unwelcome are necessary. Remember, she loved dad first! She needs to know how boys at this age think and she needs to be aware of the consequences to forgetting her judgment. If she is old enough to have a boyfriend, she is old enough to sit there red faced while you preach. Don’t forget to mention her reputation and all the other nasty little details that can pop up when a young girl trusts a young boy too much too fast! Be as honest as you can.
One aspect of your daughter’s first boyfriend you should consider is the money it can cost you if you aren’t clear right up front. Cell phones and text messages can really add up. SET BOUNDARIES! Additionally, set boundaries while in his presence. If he wants to play house then he can act like your son-in-law and get a first hand glimpse of what it is you expect and won’t tolerate. Talk to his parents as well and make sure they are aware of the relationship and the amount of time the two kids are spending chatting electronically. The last thing you want is his parents in a tizzy and freaking out on your daughter. Make a phone call to them and be direct about asking what they expect from the couple and what their ground rules are. This way the two of you can be together. You also might find that you don’t like his parents or feel that they are less interested in protecting your daughter than you would like! This is good information to have on hand.
The whole thing can be disturbing. It is a sure sign that your little angel is growing up. At the same time remember your first relationship and the excitement and dazzle that it stirred in you. Don’t squash her opportunity to feel the same exhilaration. Allow her to make decisions from time to time and ensure that your spot in her life is still safe by keeping your head as clear as possible. Teach her through this relationship that the role of women is not to be taken advantage of and help her gain her assertiveness and independence when it comes to men at an early age. This will serve her so well in life down the road. How well you handle the first boyfriend will play a large part in how included she allows you to be down the road. Even if you think he is a loser, try to be supportive as much as possible and keep a tight handle on the reins of her life. Your daughter’s first boyfriend will definitely not be the last, which means you might as well get used to the routine and find practical ways to stay connected and influential!
Whether you feel like you’re stuck in a dead end relationship because of your partner’s sexual orientation or you have had your doubts from the beginning, knowing your boyfriend is gay will save you a lot of time, trouble and stress, and will help him finally find his soul mate. Many girls stay in relationships with gay boyfriends without realizing it. While there’s nothing wrong with it – each of us is trying to create lives that feel right to us – it’s critical to be honest with one another. Before confronting him, check out these possible signs your boyfriend may be gay.
1 He claims he doesn’t like and understand gays
If your boyfriend can’t stop talking about lesbians and gays, even when you say nothing on this topic, he may hide the truth from you. They say, if you hate something, this means you’re interested in it. Maybe your boyfriend shows his rage toward gays to prevent you and others from guessing he’s gay. After all, it’s easy to understand gays and lesbians, they simply want to be happy so they build relationships just like every couple around the globe.
2 He has a weird sense of style
Fashion is the perfect way to find out if your boyfriend is gay. The thing is, gays have fantastic sense of style. They are genuinely fashionable. If he’s obsessed with fashion trends and he spends hours trying to mix and match his numerous pieces of clothing, paying attention to little details, this may be a warning sign. It’s normal when a guy has a great sense of style, but when he goes too far it’s not normal. Moreover, if he always criticizes everything you wear in a negative way, maybe it’s time to have a serious talk.
3 He makes more eye contact with men than women
When hanging out together, pay attention to his eye contact. If you catch him staring at other men, ask him about his choice. Typically, guys make eye contact with girls. If your boyfriend isn’t interested in women, it’s one of the possible signs he is gay. The best thing is when he makes eye contact with you only. That’s the talk!
4 Does he like divas?
Most gay men I know are huge fans of celebrities who lead unusual lifestyles, have unusual mindset, looks and habits. Find out more facts about your boyfriend’s idols. This will help you to figure out the truth. Again, not all men who love Cher or Paul O’Grady are gays, so be extra careful with your conclusions.
5 He loves it when other men notice him
When your boyfriend craves other men’s attention, he may be unsure of his sexuality. It’s like a hot guy staring at you at a college party. The feelings are similar. Straight men crave women’s attention so if your other half is different, he may be gay.
6 He has more beauty and skincare products than you
Although it’s crucial that your man takes care of his appearance, his grooming shouldn’t take hours to accomplish. My gay friend has more beauty, skincare and makeup products than any other woman has and he says he spends up to 2 hours in the bathroom every morning before going to work. If this sounds familiar to you, it’s a red flag.
7 He has a suspiciously close male friend
Does your guy has a suspiciously close male friend? Have you ever noticed something weird or suspicious? Anything from lingering gazes, secret conversations, sweet touches to hugs that last longer than usual? You don’t have to be paranoid to notice those things, but you also doesn’t want to stand in their way, do you?
Finding out that your boyfriend is gay isn’t fun. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill, though. First of all, confront him and have a serious talk. A lot of gay men don’t even know and realize they are gay so you may help him to find his true calling. Even if he’s gay, it doesn’t mean you can’t be friends. Gays are fabulous and loyal friends.
Are you sick of your guy dismissing you (or your relationship) to look “cool” in front of his friends? After all, as an adult man, hasn’t he grown out of that behavior by now?
Society conditions men (from the time they’re young boys) to walk through the world stifling their feelings, honoring what’s “manly,” and connecting with other men in a way that doesn’t explore deep emotions. Groups of “manly men” then police each other’s masculinity (as society defines it), pressuring each other to “perform” masculinity as constant proof they’re honoring the code and therefore belong to the club of “men.” This practice creates what educator, activist and acclaimed TEDx speaker Tony Porter refers to as the “man-box.”
The reality behind “man box” conditioning is that not all men are victims of it, but all men do feel pressure to either adopt or reject the norms. On a deep level, men must consciously decide whether being heartfelt, sensitive, or loving compromises masculinity, strength, and power.
These standards weigh on the minds of many men, forcing them to abandon who they are for society’s myopic view of “masculinity.”
As a result, by trying to look “cool” in front of their guy friends, men end up looking like one-dimensional idiots (especially to the women who love them). Here are five sad and disappointing ways your man damages your relationships and undermines his personal integrity by trying to act “cool” in front of his friends:
1. He insults femininity
The number one way men cut their friends (and enemies) down is by calling them a “girl.” They might say, “You’re being a woman” or “stop being such a little bitch.” It’s ironic that men use this separation from girls/women as a primary way of bonding with other men, because it hides their genuine desire to connect behind a thorny exterior while it simultaneously insults and disconnects them from you . the “girl” in their life whom they supposedly love and honor.
2. He acts like commitment is horrible and tying him down
All healthy relationships require commitment — a commitment to being faithful, loving, and in touch with your partner. The last thing a man wants his friends to think is that he’s been domesticated, metaphorically neutered by his relationship. Bros don’t pat you on the back for actually loving and caring about someone. Handing in his proverbial “Player Card” (by admitting he’s head over heels for you) is a death sentence according to toxic masculinity. It challenges the appeal of the chase, the prowl, the search for freedom and sexual conquest necessary to “being a man.”
3. He won’t open up emotionally
A man focused on “performing masculinity” resists opening up about his needs emotionally. The inevitable result is toting around a long list of failed relationships, in which he kept his needs (and feelings) at arm’s length, because he feared losing the respect of his friends if they saw how trapped and isolated he felt. (In other words, admitting that a breakup or failed relationship hurt him = not cool). If he never lets you get close (especially in front of his friends) it’s easier to act like he never cared in the first place when it ends.
4. He acts like a phony
Authenticity requires being in touch with who you are at your deepest level. Men striving to win approval from male peers never really stand authentically in who they truly are, let alone behave consistently in alignment with what they most want out of life. Inauthentic men typically surround themselves with inauthentic forms of living their lives (i.e. lots of outward signs of success, including using women as trophies). It’s no surprise why they embrace identifying with umbrella terms like “bros,” rather than having a clear individual sense of identify.
5. He makes aggression his default recreational activity
Men participate over and over again in aggression pageants throughout their lives. From contact sports to shouting out of car windows at pretty women, men gather their “street credibility” from their friends by engaging in domineering (and sometimes downright demeaning) behavior. Society limits men to acting aggressive and having aggressive hobbies as their main outlets for “acceptable” behavior. The result is a severe need for constant validation and acceptance, thus rejecting sensitivity and vulnerability as weak, feminine or homosexual.
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What can you do about your man’s immature (and insecure) behavior?
The best thing a woman can do for a man caught up in “performing masculinity” is not to take it personally. Understand the conditioning he received that made him act this way. Adults and peers told him to “man up” his entire life and despite his posturing, he’s actually walking an emotional tight rope of only being allowed to express a few “safe” masculine emotions.
Here are a few ways to begin ushering your man toward a more multi-dimensional form of masculinity . or rather, humanity:
- Encourage him to express his feelings. Use phrases like: “I find it so sexy when you tell me what you want.” “I really respect you when you share yourself with me.” Check in with him about his opinions, emotions, and reactions to what’s happening in his life. “How did that make you feel?” “Does that bother you?”
- Do NOT accept his inconsiderate behavior or insensitivity. Understand why he says what he says, but allow him to understand why his behavior is unacceptable, hurtful, and that it has consequences. Show him that being empathetic commands respect and takes courage.
- Create an environment in your relationship in which him having a healthy emotional life feels safe and nurtured. Dig deep down into the trenches of your thoughts — your feelings — and encourage him to open up. This includes expressing your own vulnerability and encouraging him to do so, in turn, making him feel welcome to share moments of vulnerability and sensitivity, or bring his feelings to the table. Listen intently and give him undivided attention when he’s opening up.
Dealing with your man’s skewed sense of masculinity often feels frustrating. Understanding why he behaves that way doesn’t make his actions better or less hurtful. But, it just might help you take it less personally, creating space for you to work with him as he betters himself and, in turn, your union.
We’re not talking about a guy who loves to play video games all day and eat Cap’n Crunch for dinner; this is about the deeper issues that can prevent you from having the relationship you want and deserve — now and in the future.
Not sure whether this term accurately describes your guy? Here are 10 signs your boyfriend is immature and you’re in a relationship with a man-child.
1. He lives only in the present.
Unless they’re wondering if they can have Oreos for dinner, children don’t think about their futures much. So, if the guy you’re dating can’t make plans — for tomorrow or two years from now — he’s living in the here and now.
“Adults plan futures, strategize how they can reach those future goals, and take action now in service of those goals,” says psychologist and radio host Dr. Cooper Lawrence.
Children and immature men don’t do this. “[They] can’t think too far ahead because they are incapable of seeing their future selves in a clear light,” she notes.
2. He doesn’t pick up after himself.
This can relate to anything from picking up his clothes around your living space, to picking up the tab on dates, or even his unpaid debts.
“Are you making excuses for his behavior and rationalizing his poor choices?” asks Dr. Jill Weber, psychologist and author of Having Sex, Wanting Intimacy: Why Women Settle for One-Sided Relationships. “When people do not fully grow up, they farm out the hard work of adulthood to those closest to them,” she says.
That person is likely you.
3. He’s recklessly impulsive.
This could mean anything from making spontaneous, big purchases to kissing someone outside the relationship.
“Children’s brains are not fully developed, so they don’t have the capacity to think about or appreciate the consequences of their actions,” says Lawrence. That’s why we do stupid things as teenagers.
If your man is impulsive, and acts first and apologizes later, it shows a huge level of immaturity.
4. He’s a little too close to his mother.
We love a man who’s close with his family, but if he has a bizarre, childish relationship with his mother, know that you likely won’t be the leading lady in his life
Says psychologist Dr. Jeff Gardere, “Along similar lines, if he cancels dinner and other plans with you to spend time with his family, borrows money from his parents without paying them back, and still lets his mother influence — or make — all his decisions, those are red flags.”
5. He’s selfish in bed.
Does it seem like he’s always the only one receiving pleasure? If your most intimate moments are about meeting his needs and not yours, we’re sorry to say he’s absolutely a man-child.
“Your sexual chemistry is a reflection of your relationship,” says Lawrence. “So, if he acts self-centered between the sheets, there is a good chance his emotional maturity level is pretty bad in other areas.”
6. He avoids serious conversations.
Or, he just doesn’t know how to handle one maturely. When deep issues arise, does he make a joke, change the topic, look at his phone and ignore you, or turn the tables and blame you?
“The last thing a man-child wants is a confrontation, and he will do anything to stop it in its tracks,” says Weber.
Similarly, he’ll have a hard time owning up to his mistakes. “When you try to bring up something serious, pay attention to whether you’re the one who ends up apologizing and notice if the original point of the argument even gets addressed,” she adds.
7. His interests and friendships seem middle-schoolish.
Does he act like a teenage boy when he’s with his buddies or not properly introduce you to his friends? “This man-child would rather go to Comic Con or play Frisbee with his friends than spend a weekend away with you,” says Gardere.
Weber also notes in an article for Psychology Today that “men who never grow up don’t know how to deal with adult women; they revert to their adolescent ways out of discomfort with intimacy and to protect themselves from getting too close to you.”
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8. He only talks about surface-level stuff.
Mature people know how to connect with others on a deeper level. If he can’t seem to have a conversation where he talks about his life, fears, the past, and all the things that make couples connect, he’ll never bond with you.
“If he is keeping the conversation very surface and even spends time making fun of friends or coworkers, it shows he doesn’t have the capability to have a mature and adult relationship,” says Lawrence.
9. He brushes off your family and friends.
Because a man-child lives with one foot out the door, he may see meeting your family as a big step. Refusing to meet your parents and hang out with your friends isn’t just indicative of a man-child, it’s also rude.
“It’s hard to have a thriving adult romantic relationship with someone who is glorifying his college years and only wants to hang with the guys,” says Weber.
A man who respects and loves you will respect the people you love and who love you, too.
10. Any mention of children or commitment makes him panic.
If after a reasonable amount of time — and this should not be years — you can’t bring up the future on any level (kids, home, pets, marriage), well, guess what? This is textbook man-child.
“This behavior is strange,” notes Weber. “After all, just talking about what you want or don’t want doesn’t mean it’s going to happen or that you are certain you even want it with him. It is just a talk, and you deserve to know if your partner wants the same things you do.”
Some women don't know what to do in order to ride their guys well. Some are even afraid of getting tired on top. Read 15 tips on how to ride your man right.
On The importance Of Riding A Man Well
When it comes to a romantic relationship, women are mostly taught the importance of better sex, orgasm or relationships but nobody tells you the nitty-gritty of how they can improve the techniques and they are left with little knowledge about precisely HOW to spice up their relationships. For this reason, many women think that they won’t be required to get on top during sexy with her man because they don’t know how to ride him properly. Some women say that they're afraid of embarrassing themselves, and others make excuses because being on top is too tiring. And others just admit that they don’t know how to ride a man well.
Don't worry – this article is meant to help all those ladies who want to please her man but doesn’t know exactly how to do it. Here are some tips on how to ride a guy until he feels like he is in heaven.
#1 Be Extra Careful When Sitting On Top Of The Guy
People don’t mention this tip a lot, but it’s important to position yourself on top of your man properly so that you can see his face comfortably. Besides, if you position yourself well, you will be able to ride his dick for a long time before you get tired. When your man’s dick is hard, the penis is not flexible and sitting on it wrongly and pressing it down with all your body weight might result in much strain and pain. Make sure to find his natural angle and put your pelvis in a position you and the guy are both comfortable in. Every guy has a different angle, so don’t assume you'll be able to climb on top and start riding him just like that. If you do it wrong, it will make you tired faster and it could even hurt him. Just a warning though- when you ride him enthusiastically, don’t let his penis slip out because if it does, it might result in some painful injuries!
#2 Please Yourself First. Please Your Man Second.
A guy wouldn’t mind at all if you hopped on top and did the riding. So if you want to cum hard, don’t disappoint yourself. Just do it! You perhaps do that behind the closed door of your bedroom. When you go on top of your man, imagine he is an object sent from heaven for you to ride on. After you have achieved your sexual peak, you can now start to please him by making some dirty moves. That alone can make him grab your ass and grind you from below. It’s basically like killing two birds with one stone, and even though your man might think you are selfish and feel tired when doing it for the first time, he will appreciate it later on.
#3 Be Creative During The Ride!
When you are on top of him and in control, ask your man some questions. A good woman will ask her guy some dirty questions with a lot of confidence. You can also bend over to his face and kiss him as you request him to kiss you on the neck, grab your boobs or your waist. However, as you ride on him, don’t ask him questions not related to sex or else he will get tired of you. You don’t have to worry about what he doesn’t want to hear; a good guy will just tell you.
#4 Learn The Motion Of The Ocean
Your guy would enjoy this so much, and he wouldn’t get tired of it. Sex should go hand on hand with passion and so while you ride on him, you can lay down flat on him, kiss him, maintain an eye-contact, touch cheek to cheek and move slowly and gently. While you do that, maintain a rolling and a steady rhythm kind of movement described as the motion of the ocean, on your man. By doing it gently, you will ride your guy for a long time without getting tired.
#5 Make An “In And Out” Motion
While you ride, don’t just wiggle around. You perhaps afraid of getting tired while going up and down but it’s recommended to do so that your man can be pleased. You can even spice it up by doing it from the sides and please your guy more. You don’t have to do it by precisely going up and down, but you can also do a back and forth and make sure you are playing between the tip of his dick and his balls. Otherwise, if you mistakenly let the dick out of you, you might end up hurting him after falling on him, and you both end up frustrated and tired.
#6 Relax And Enjoy Every Bit Of It!
Keep it one hundred, girl. Enjoy every bit of the ride. Change angles, look at the face of your man, turn back and let that guy face your ass, grind on him, and do anything that will make you feel worthy. Bounce on him and when you are about to cum, shake like you have been electrocuted. If your guy loves calling out when having sex, then listen to his mourning and drive him crazier, you shouldn’t get tired at that point.
If you are looking for ways on how to tease your man and turn him on, then you have to take a look at the following article.
Teasing is about doing seemingly mundane things, with sexy twists. It is the way used to keep your guy thinking about you throughout the day. By applying some of 16 hot and wicked ways on how to tease your man, collected by Wikiyeah.com, you can turn him on without effort.
How To Tease Your Man – 16 Easy Ways
How to tease your man
1. Unexpected Affection
Men do not typically expect a lot of affection from their female lovers, yet if you can help your guy get off guard with unexpected subtle touch or tongue-kiss which is little proactive. This is considered as one of great ways on how to tease your man no matter where you are and let him acknowledge about what will occur when the two of you get home. [Read: how to seduce a man in seconds]
2. Naughty Messages
In regard of wicked ways on how to tease your man, naughty texting is a great way. In fact, texting can get a man bothered when he is not with you. Of course, the most sure-fire way to leave him hard is using a nudie photo, it also comes with then potential risk of internet hacking. So, this might not be a safe manner on how to tease your man. Instead of showing it off, you can tease your man using sensual texts.
Or, you could play the “If you were here,…” game through texting. Because you do not directly speak your words, you will feel it easier go wild.
PDA means you can tease him in public. PDA is to focus on public affection. If you are in public, just simply slip your arm around him, hold him tighter a little bit, or sit in his lap while being out. [Read: What men secretly want review – A complete guide for discovering men’s mind
Lingerie, among less-known tips on how to tease your man, is the one that many women ignore, but slipping into a piece of lingerie could really make your man go crazy. It is particularly true when you catch him entirely off guard. [Read: physical turn ons for guys]
5. Sexy Perfume
If you want to tease your man without having to doing anything, you should make use of perfumes, particularly sexy perfumes. There are a lot of perfumes available in the market nowadays which can drive your guy wild. What you need is to find the specific one which works for your own body chemistry – the one that you exactly know he will love. Smell could change everything. [Read: best perfumes for women that men love]
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If you want to know whether the guy you are hanging out with is serious about you or not, then you can try out a few tricks on him. If he falls for it, then your guy loves you for sure. But if he seems disinterested, then most likely he is not. But, if you don’t know the rules of this mind game, then it might backfire anytime. So, before you start playing the jealousy card on your guy, it’s important that you know the rules of the game. There are times in a relationship when the girl feels she is being taken for granted by the guy. It doesn’t feel good, so in order to give your guy a reality check, make him jealous. He will also start realizing that how important you are and how incomplete he will feel if you were not there by his side.
Making the guy jealous
When you are married for a long time, your husband starts thinking that he is the only priority in your life. You'll do everything possible just to please him and make him happy. But, doesn’t this rule apply to him as well? You should be his priority too and your married life should be filled with bliss. If you feel neglected in your married life, then it's time to make your guy jealous and make him realize your worth. It's not that hard to make your husband or boyfriend feel jealous.
But, always remember: If he comes to know that you were only playing mind games with him, then he might get upset with you. In order to make your guy jealous, start with something small that won't hurt him. If you do something stupid, then it can hurt your guy and ruin your married life as well. If you don’t like the possessive guys, then it is better to stay away from this.
There are chances that once you start playing this game, he might become a possessive boyfriend or husband who will keep calling you just to know your whereabouts. He might get suspicious about your activity and the men around you. Be prepared to handle all of this, and assure your guy that you still hold him dearly in your heart.
Ready to make your guy jealous?
Let’s get started with texting. Yes, you can make your boyfriend feel jealous through texts. A simple twist in your sentence, such as leaving out certain information, will force him to think that you are hanging out with some other guy when in reality you are just hanging out with your pet dog. Yes, it can be that simple. Excited to know more about it? Read on. When our boyfriend has sent you a text, don’t respond to that text immediately, even if you are sitting idle. If he has texted you in the evening, then give reply the following morning. Just let him know that you were busy last night, so you weren’t able to text him back right away. Don’t let him know why you were busy. Let him make some wild guesses.
If he is asking you out through text, then decline it by saying that you have already made some plan with someone. You can also give out hints about what you feel for the guy, but remember to keep up the mystery. Here are 25 other clever ways to make a guy feel jealous and draw his attention towards you.