Do you want to achieve more in your life or let me put this way, do you want to achieve more with your life?
We all struggle with procrastination, we all complain about lack of time.
It’s like we are stuck somewhere and can’t move. If you were to review last year or even 5 years of your life, you will realise that nothing is happening.
Life is just flowing and it seems that we don’t have any control over it.
We wake up, go to college or office, spend most of our time on apps like Facebook, Instagram, Netflix, prime video, YouTube and that’s it. Nothing else, absolutely nothing else.
We come up with n number of plans like weight loss, up skilling or just some personal or professional project but somehow we fail to implement them.
If you are interested in achieving more in your life, mantra is very simple- Execution.
Just be agile and move with your execution and you can do whatever you set your mind on but the problem is it’s easier said than done.
We can come up with plan anytime and fail when it comes to execution.
And primary reason is lack of visibility in our life. As a human, we are conditioned to respond better to data or some kind of metric, that’s provide some kind of visibility into our life.
But right now there is proper way of getting a bird eye view of our life.
If you take example of fitness or quit smoking programs, there are so many apps in the market, providing deep insights into these issues which helps us.
For example, when a fitness app tells you that you walked 5000 steps or lost 200 calories, it serves as a motivation to do more. Or if you take example of quit smoking apps, they tell you how many minutes of your life have been saved or how much money you have saved.
These metrics helps you by motivating you to achieve more.
Similarly we need something in our life to provide us some kind of metrics. If I know that I spent 90 days out of last 365 days on Netflix or 100 days with Facebook or Instagram, it helps me in visualising how much time of my life I have lost on these unproductive activities.
Now imagine if you had such information for last 10 years of your life, you will be probably shocked to know that you might have wasted time equivalent of years on something which is just not adding any value in your life.
Take this example;
Do you spend 2 hrs everyday on social media?
If yes, 2*365 = 730 hrs/annum
which means over 30 days in a year on social media
& if you are not using it for professional purposes, you are wasting a month of your life every year on social media which include apps social media apps. I think it’s quite common nowadays.
Start tracking your activities because as I have explained so far, you don’t even know much time you spend daily on these activities.
I am using Quickurself to track and manage my life.
It’s a android and iOS app so you can use it whether you are using android devices or iPhone.
You just need to add your activities and it will tell you how much time you are spending on it.
Free version doesn’t give you access to charts and advance metric like days spent on a category.
But you will still get number of activities and number of hours spent on these categories. It include most popular apps & activities like
- Prime video
- Office work
When you add these activities in the app, it will generate a snapshot which will look something like this. Please note this image is from premium subscription so you have charts and days also but as mentioned earlier, free version will also provide information about number of activities and hours spent on it.
Over a period of time, you will have a 360 degree view of your life. Knowledge is key to fixing a problem.
If I know that I spent 2 months on social media or 1 month on e-commerce sites, I can divert my time & efforts towards more productive activities.
Imagine if I am saving 4 months every year (which doesn’t look like a big deal), in 10 years I have 40 months which is more than 3 years.
Technically speaking I can become a rocket scientist if I were to put these 3 years in learning rocket science.
Now if you are targeting something less complex like learning some other skill, you can imagine that it won’t be tough anymore.
Biggest problem today is that we are always distracted.
We don’t even realise how much time we waste on things which simply doesn’t matter to us.
Acknowledging and accepting the problem is the first step towards fixing any problem.
Second step is collecting all the relevant information or metrics related to that problem.
Third and final step is to prioritise and dedicate our time towards productivity activities.
Therefore I use QuickurSelf and add all my activities.
I track how much time I am spending on different activities like Facebook, Twitter, home, entertainment or official activities like meeting, emails etc.
I can confidently says that I have managed to cut down my unproductive activities by minimum 30% in a months time.
Rachel Goldman, PhD FTOS, is a licensed psychologist, clinical assistant professor, speaker, wellness expert specializing in eating behaviors, stress management, and health behavior change.
How do we define success? There are many different tactics for how to be successful in life, but the strategy that works best for you may depend on your view of success itself. We often think of it as doing well at work or earning a high salary.
While professional accomplishments can be one piece of the puzzle, it leaves out many other important areas of life. Family, romantic relationships, academics, and athletics are just a few areas where people may strive for success. Your individual definition of what success is may vary, but many might define it as being fulfilled, happy, safe, healthy, and loved.
It is the ability to reach your goals in life, whatever those goals may be. So what can you do to boost your chances of achieving these things? What are some of the habits of successful people?
There is no single right way to be successful. What works for you might not work for someone else. There may not be a perfect combination of ingredients that can guarantee success, but there are some basic steps you can follow that can improve your chances of being successful in life, love, work, or whatever happens to be important to you.
Build a Growth Mindset
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Research by psychologist Carol Dweck suggests that there are two basic mindsets that influence how people think about themselves and their abilities: the fixed mindset and the growth mindset.
People who possess a fixed mindset believe that things such as intelligence are static and unchangeable. Those with a fixed mindset believe that success isn’t a result of hard work—it’s simply a consequence of innate talents.
Because they believe that such talents are something people are either born with or without, they tend to give up more easily in the face of a challenge. They quit when things do not come easily because they believe that they lack the inborn skill needed to excel.
Those who have a growth mindset, on the other hand, feel that they can change, grow, and learn through effort. People who believe that they are capable of growth are more likely to achieve success. When things get tough, they look for ways to improve their skills and keep working toward success.
People with a growth mindset believe that they have control of their life, while those with a fixed mindset believe that things are out of their control.
What can you do to build a growth mindset?
- Believe that your efforts matter. Rather than thinking their abilities are fixed or stuck, people who have a growth mindset believe that effort and hard work can lead to meaningful growth.
- Learn new skills. When faced with a challenge, they look for ways to develop the knowledge and skills that they need to overcome and triumph.
- View failures as learning experiences. People with growth mindsets don't believe that failure is a reflection of their abilities. Instead, they view it as a valuable source of experience from which they can learn and improve. "That didn't work," they might think, "so this time I'll try something a little different."
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Can achievement be broken down into steps? It isn’t always that clean and easy, but those who achieve great things usually go through much of the same process, with many of the items listed below as part of that process. So if you have been struggling with achievement, look through the following. Begin to apply them and you will be on the road to achieving your dream.
Step 1: Dream it.
Everything begins in the heart and mind. Every great achievement began in the mind of one person. They dared to dream, to believe that it was possible. Take some time to allow yourself to ask “What if?” Think big. Don’t let negative thinking discourage you. You want to be a “dreamer.” Dream of the possibilities for yourself, your family and for others. If you had a dream that you let grow cold, re-ignite the dream! Fan the flames. Life is too short to let it go.
Step 2: Believe it.
Yes, your dream needs to be big. It needs to be something that is seemingly beyond your capabilities. But it also must be believable. You must be able to say that if certain things take place, if others help, if you work hard enough, though it is a big dream, it can still be done. Good example: A person with no college education can dream that he will build a $50 million-a-year company. That is big, but believable. Bad example: That a 90-year-old woman with arthritis will someday run a marathon in under three hours. It is big all right, but also impossible. She should instead focus on building a $50 million-a-year business! And she better get a move on!
Step 3: See it.
The great achievers have a habit. They “see” things. They picture themselves walking around their CEO office in their new $25 million corporate headquarters, even while they are sitting on a folding chair in their garage “headquarters.” Great free-throw shooters in the NBA picture the ball going through the basket. PGA golfers picture the ball going straight down the fairway. World-class speakers picture themselves speaking with energy and emotion. All of this grooms the mind to control the body to carry out the dream.
Step 4: Tell it.
One reason many dreams never go anywhere is because the dreamer keeps it all to himself. It is a quiet dream that only lives inside of his mind. The one who wants to achieve their dream must tell that dream to many people. One reason: As we continually say it, we begin to believe it more and more. If we are talking about it then it must be possible. Another reason: It holds us accountable. When we have told others, it spurs us on to actually doing it so we don’t look foolish.
Step 5: Plan it.
Every dream must take the form of a plan. The old saying that you “get what you plan for” is so true. Your dream won’t just happen. You need to sit down, on a regular basis, and plan out your strategy for achieving the dream. Think through all of the details. Break the whole plan down into small, workable parts. Then set a time frame for accomplishing each task on your “dream plan.”
Step 6: Work it.
Boy, wouldn’t life be grand if we could quit before this one! Unfortunately the successful are usually the hardest workers. While the rest of the world is sitting on their sofas watching reruns of Gilligan’s Island, achievers are working on their goal—achieving their dream. I have an equation that I work with: Your short-term tasks, multiplied by time, equal your long-term accomplishments. If you work on it each day, eventually you will achieve your dream. War and Peace was written, in longhand, page by page.
Step 7: Enjoy it.
When you have reached your goal and you are living your dream, be sure to enjoy it. In fact, enjoy the trip, too. Give yourself some rewards along the way. Give yourself a huge reward when you get there. Help others enjoy it. Be gracious and generous. Use your dream to better others. Then go back to No. 1. And dream a little bigger this time!
Editor’s note: This post was originally published in March 2014 and has been updated for freshness, accuracy and comprehensiveness.
Believe in yourself, you can achieve anything that you set your mind to. There are no limits out here, the only limits are those that you impose upon yourself. Dream, believe and take action. Identify what you truly want and how you truly want to live your life, and take action. Start to create the life of your dreams. Start small, dream big and don’t ever give up.
You have to go after what you want or you will be confined to the life that you have stumbled into. The majority of people are confined to a life of mediocrity because they don’t bother making a determined effort in the pursuit of what their heart yearns for, and they just live their whole lives like cowards, afraid to move out of their comfort zone, but it isn’t really the comfort zone as people like to call it, it is the lazy zone, the just getting by zone, the cowardice zone, the conformist zone, the average zone, the mediocre zone, and the timid zone.
You have to know that you have something within you, and that is greatness. Within is where the true growth occurs that will enable you to live the life of your dreams. The mind is the key that will unlock the door to your potential, your fearlessness, your courage, your ambition, your drive, your determination, your hunger, your grit, your perseverance, and your greatness.
Do away with the mindset of mediocrity, you have to step up your game and take your life to a new level. The time is now to go after what you truly want, change your mentality and your life will start to change. We do not see the world as it is, but as we are. When you change for the better then everything around you will change for the better. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world.
If you do not believe that you can achieve anything that you set your mind to it is because you have some false internal beliefs about yourself. Your beliefs are what dictate how you live your life. If you don’t believe that you can become successful then you will not take any action, and you will just continue doing the same mediocre things day after day, and you will never chase after your dreams.
You are capable of more than you know, start to develop yourself, start to reprogramme your mind and don’t just settle for the so-called normal life. The majority of people are not going to work because they want to, it is because they have to pay their bills. Is that what the purpose of work is? To pay your bills? If money was not an issue what would you do with your life? How would you truly like to live your life? What is your answer?Everyone has an answer for that questions, but the question is what are you spending your days doing? Are you living a lie like the majority of people?
It doesn’t matter about your past, it doesn’t matter how young or old you are, it doesn’t matter how you done in school, it doesn’t matter what you did not do, and it doesn’t matter how many failures you have encountered. You can achieve anything. Turn the page and rewrite a new script, don’t let the first chapter of your life determine the rest of your life.
Forget the past, we all have had our fair share of disappointments in life, but don’t live in the past, it has gone. So right now resolve to be a new you, an individual who is determined to succeed and live life on your terms. Make this day a new beginning of a new adventure of greatness. It’s time to get on your grind by focusing your mind on success.
It is the mind that holds the majority of people back from going after what they truly want. The mind is what paralyzes people from taking action. Once you break down those mental barriers that have imprisoned you, you will live life differently, your perspective, your actions, your goals, your plans, your limits, and your fears will disappear.
Believe in yourself. I believe in you, you can do it. This is your life, so you have to do what is right for you. Nobody else is walking in your shoes. If you want to live life on a new level you have to set your goals, see the vision, make the plans, and take daily consistent action. Consistency is they key, so many people want the good life but just give up after a few days or they don’t even try. If you are truly serious about moving your life in a new direction you need to take action every single damn day.
Success is not a sprint, it a marathon. Be a coward and remain confined to an average life or you can be a leader of your life and live life how you want to live it, on your terms.
Elizabeth Scott, PhD is an author, workshop leader, educator, and award-winning blogger on stress management, positive psychology, relationships, and emotional wellbeing.
Just as everyone has their own definition of success, we all have slightly different ideas of what constitutes a high-quality life. However, there are some steps everyone can take to make life more enjoyable. Just taking these few steps can boost your personal well-being and make each day more meaningful, without drastic change.
Maintain Healthy Relationships
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Relationships play an important role in mental health. Research shows that not only can healthy and supportive relationships increase your happiness, life satisfaction, and psychological well-being, they can also reduce the risk of suicide.
However, not all relationships are created equal. Negative relationships can create toxic situations involving conflict and stress. Disconnecting from unhealthy relationships and fostering healthy ones is vital to your well-being.
Get a Good Night's Sleep
Whether you're staying up late because of your job or to catch up on social media, there is so much going on in our lives that seem to take precedence over a good night's sleep. But sleep is an integral part of a healthy lifestyle.
The quality of your sleep directly affects your mental and physical health. It also affects the quality of your life, including your productivity, emotional balance, creativity, and even your weight. No other activity delivers so many benefits with so little effort.
Regular exercise has a profoundly positive impact on your physical and mental health. Not only does it trim your waistline, but it can also curb depression, relieve anxiety, improve your memory, and help you sleep better, all of which boost your overall mood.
You don't have to be a fitness fanatic to reap these benefits. Research indicates that even 30 minutes of exercise a day can make a difference. Joining a group fitness class, working out with a friend, and scheduling a regular workout time are just a few tactics you can use to keep you motivated and inspired to exercise.
Find Meaning in Your Work
The career you choose can form part of your identity and shape how you feel about yourself. Working in a job you view as meaningless and directionless can be physically and emotionally draining no matter the size of your paycheck or your title.
While it may not be possible to change your career paths, that doesn’t mean that you can’t still find meaning in your life, either by restructuring your workday or taking part in other gratifying activities like charity work and hobbies. Engaging in gratifications and other flow-producing activities can infuse more meaning into your work, making it more enjoyable.
Plug Your Energy Drains
Most of us have a few things in our lives that drain us of our energy on a daily basis. These are known as tolerations, and they come in many shapes and forms. They can take the form of a disrespectful co-worker or unresolved conflict with a family member. They can even be small, seemingly inconsequential things like a cluttered table in your home or a clothing alteration you’ve been putting off.
No matter how big or small they may seem, tolerations have a way of accumulating and weighing you down. Learning how to identify and eliminate your tolerations will give you more energy for doing things that you enjoy.
Make Time for Leisure
Do you ever feel like there is never enough time in the day to do the things you want to do? Yes, life is busy, and most of us have enough work to occupy all of our time—times two. But if you’re not allowing yourself time to relax and have some fun, you could be doing yourself a big disservice.
Leisure time is more important than many people realize. Research shows that engaging in a leisure activity not only lowers your stress levels and improves your mood, but it also enhances your problem-solving skills.
So indulge yourself with a pleasurable activity and watch your mood and productivity improve. You might even find yourself more energized and excited about doing those things you have to do—or at least not dreading them.
Stop feeling confused and overwhelmed; this exercise will help you gain clarity.
A lot of people come to work with me because they feel stuck, and they want to change their life. But one of the first obstacles we run into is that when I ask them what they want their life to look like, they often don’t know.
Knowing what you want is the first and most important step in creating a better future. But how do you make this important decision? Trying to decide what you want in a world full of so many choices can seem overwhelming.
On the other hand, most people have a very good idea of what they don’t want in life. We look around and see all the terrible things happening in the world, and we realize we don’t want war, we don’t want poverty, we don’t want sickness.
We look at our own lives and think about the things that don’t feel right, such as the boss who nags, the spouse who isn’t supportive, the kids who don’t listen, or the empty checking account. You may have thoughts like: “I don’t want to be poor,” “I don’t want to work at this lousy job where no one appreciates me,” or “I don’t want to have to deal with the screaming kids who never listen.”
The good news is if you can identify what you don’t want, knowing what you do want is definitely within your reach. To perceive anything, there must be a contrast between the two states. To know that something is unwanted, we must know that something else is wanted instead. One serves as the reference point for the other.
For example, we could not identify the wanted state of happiness if we did not know what it was like to experience the unwanted state of being unhappy. The reason you can identify what you don’t want is that you are aware some other, preferable state exists, otherwise you wouldn’t know it was unwanted. You simply have to give more of your attention to the wanted state and give it some clarity.
Once you have identified what you don’t want, see if you can flip it over and find the contrasting wanted state. If you don’t want to live in the city, perhaps it is because you prefer a slower country pace. If you don’t want to work in a retail job, but you aren’t sure what kind of job you would like, write down as many details as you can about what you don’t like in retail. For example, “I don’t like retail because it’s exhausting to stand on my feet all day. Instead, I would like a job where I could spend more time at a desk.”
Once you have identified what you don’t want, ask yourself: What would I like to see instead?
Don’t want: I don’t want a spouse who doesn’t appreciate me.
Want: I want a spouse who adores me and treats me with respect.
Don’t want: I don’t want to work at this lousy job.
Want: I want a job that stimulates me intellectually and allows me to be creative.
Get as specific as possible. Once you have decided you want a job that is stimulating and creative, start thinking about other aspects of the job you would like, such as independence, a lot of interaction with coworkers, increased responsibility, a better salary. The more details you include, the more specific you can be in developing the plan and the steps necessary to achieve your goal.
A worksheet to help with this can be found here.
Deciding what you want today does not mean you can’t change your mind tomorrow. Often, we think we want something, but as we find out more about it, we change our minds. Consider this a success, not a failure. It doesn’t mean you don’t know what you want; it means you know you want something else instead.
Focus on that “something else instead,” and go in that direction. Deciding that you don’t want something that you thought you did, just means you are making a more informed decision with new data that wasn’t available to you before; it is not the same as giving up when things get difficult.
Also, keep in mind there is no final destination in life. Every time you obtain something you want, you have a new perspective from which to see other possibilities. Choosing something you want doesn’t mean you give up all other possibilities; it means you open the door to possibilities you didn’t know existed.
If you find yourself looking at your list of wants and saying, I don’t really believe I can have what I want, then you have a different issue about your expectations of the future. You act on what you expect, not what you want—so your expectations need to align with your wants, or you won’t be able to achieve them.
To work on changing your expectations, you may wish to check out my TEDx talk on exactly this topic or read my book Think Forward to Thrive, which is all about developing the skills you need to create a better future.
Vilhauer, Jennice (2014). Think Forward to Thrive: How to Use the Mind’s Power of Anticipation to Transcend Your Past and Transform Your Life. New World Library. Novato, CA.
There were many reasons we chose to become minimalist and simplify our lives. We were frustrated with clutter. We discovered the time that was wasted managing our possessions. We realized joy was not found in our possessions. And we determined that we value other things far more than physical belongings. This initial process of simplifying our home required energy, effort, and encouragement.
But the process of remaining minimalist and living this counter-cultural lifestyle against all odds requires something completely different. It requires knowing how to be content.
Contentment is the lifeblood of minimalism. And without it, the journey towards minimalism is short-lived. Discontent will always rear its ugly head and become a great obstacle to fully thriving in a simple and happy life.
Not only does contentment provide the opportunity for minimalism, it also reduces your stress level, improves your outlook, relaxes your body, and makes your life enjoyable. There is an unmistakable freedom that accompanies contentment: a freedom to be who you are, enjoy who you are, and live the life you were destined to live.
Yet in our consumeristic-culture where discontent is promoted and material gratification is encouraged, learning to be content can be very difficult. It is certainly a personal journey that we all must travel and nobody’s journey will look the same.
Although there is no one-size-fits-all program to fully-attain contentment, you can still learn how to be content by being intentional. Here are six tips you can apply today to find more contentment in your life:
1. Practice gratitude. It is impossible to develop contentment without gratitude—they are inseparable. And a grateful person is one who has learned to focus on the good things in their life, not the things they lack. The simple discipline of beginning the exercise will undoubtedly shift your focus back to the many good things you already have.
2. Take control of your attitude. A person who lacks contentment in their life will often engage in “when and then thinking” – “when I get _______, then I will be happy.” Instead, take control of your attitude. Remember, your happiness is not reliant on the acquisition of any possession. Your happiness is based solely on your decision to be happy—this may be one of the most important life lessons you can ever learn.
3. Break the buying habit. For many of us, it has been ingrained into our lives that the proper way to diffuse discontent is to purchase the outward item that is seemingly causing the discontentment. Almost no energy is spent determining the true root of the discontent. Are you dissatisfied with your wardrobe? Go buy new clothes. Not content with your vehicle? Go buy a new one. We have gotten into the habit of satisfying our discontent by simply spending more money.
We must break that habit. Material possessions will never fully satisfy the desires of your heart (that’s why discontent always returns). The next time you recognize discontentment surfacing in your life, refuse to give into that bad habit. Instead, commit to better understand yourself and why the lack of that item is causing discontent. Only after you intentionally break this thinking will true contentment begin to surface.
4. Stop comparing yourself to others. Comparing your life with someone else’s will always lead to discontentment. There will always be people who “appear” to be better off than you and seemingly living the perfect life. But be advised, we always compare the worst of what we know about ourselves to the best assumptions we make about others. Their life is never as perfect as your mind makes it out to be. You are unique. You are special. Your life is different. And it’s always better that way. Prioritize learning how to stop comparing yourself to others.
5. Help others. When you begin helping others, sharing your talents, time and money, you will find yourself learning to be content. The practice will give you a finer appreciation for what you own, who you are, and what you have to offer.
6. Be content with what you have, never with what you are. Never stop learning, growing, or discovering. Take pride in your personhood and the progress that you have made, but never become so content that you cannot find room for improvement. Contentment is not the same as complacency. As soon as you stop growing, you start dying.
FAQ About How to Be Content
What is the definition of contentment?
Contentment is finding joy in what we already have in our lives, feeling or showing satisfaction with our possessions, status, or situation. It’s being happy without trying to find fulfillment in acquiring more material possessions.
What are the benefits of contentment?
Contentment allows us to stop comparing ourselves to others and it allows us to break the cycle of wanting more. It lets us be grateful and happy for all that we have. This approach to life is scientifically proven to reduce your stress level, improve your outlook, relax your body, and make life more enjoyable.
What is the difference between contentment and complacency?
The difference can seem minor but there’s actually a world of difference. Contentment is to be happy with what you have and find satisfaction in your present circumstances. Complacency is being unsatisfied with how your life is in the moment but still being unwilling to make changes to improve your situation.
Is contentment a choice?
Absolutely, although it’s not as easy as it sounds. Learning how to be content comes from a combination of intentional mindset shifts, habit changes, and being aware of our thoughts and actions.
This post originally appeared on BrandMentalist.com.
There are things I’m proud of have achieved in my life and there are things I have failed to achieve. However, I have learned that to accomplish something big and rewarding, there are 10 key rules I need to stick by in order to guarantee success.
Are you ready? I have simplified these rules into the list below.
1. Define what you’d like to achieve and how badly you want it.
The clearer and more definite idea you have of this, the better. Write it down. Put it on your bedroom wall or work desk. Make it a clear goal that you want to achieve by a definite timeline.
2. Determine whether you want it bad enough.
If your goal is big and highly challenging, you have to want the goal bad enough in order to achieve it. Because the road to success is not easy – there will be obstacles – you will likely want to give up. So in order for you to make it through, you have to want it so badly that you’re willing to sacrifice your time and sweat to work hard.
3. Define the reward – what you will get once the goal is achieved.
Obviously if you want to achieve something, there is an incentive behind that achievement. Whether it to reach your fullest potential and be recognized for your work, to get a promotion, or anything else that you dream of. Will you make yourself and your parents proud? Will you get to travel the world? Will you get to meet certain someone? Will you get to buy your loved one a new car? Will you get to pay off your mortgage?
Remember that the real incentive behind all the tangible assets is actually feelings and emotions. You want to feel good. You want to experience the positive emotion – the high, the euphoria, the sense of achievement and fulfillment. Buying your loved one a gift makes you feel happy because you want to see her/him happy. Being able to pay off your mortgage, you will feel proud of yourself. Making your parents proud is probably one of the deepest and most satisfying kinds of happiness ever.
4. Visualize yourself achieving the goal and enjoying the reward
Define exactly what will happen when you finally achieve that goal. How would you feel when your dreams actually come true? What will happen?
How will it make you feel?
The more you can imagine and visualize the emotional response and reaction you will get and create that mental image in your head and your mind, the easier it will become to achieve that goal. Visualize it daily and in details if you can. Maybe when you’re in the shower or in your bedroom before bed.
Please remember to eliminate all self-doubt. Don’t ever doubt yourself – not even just a little bit. Even if it happens, try to brush it off. You can tell your mind once or twice that failure is possible and that you will have to be resilient and bounce back if that happens, however, never dwell on that thought. Never think about the possible failure in a repetitive manner. Don’t let any doubt get into your subconscious.
5. Think about the strategy of how you can achieve your goal.
What are the action plans you need to take? What do you need to do? What are the challenges you will face? What are the possible outcomes – A, B, C, D? The better you are at this, the more chance you have at achieving your goal. If you feel like you’re competing with a lot of people who might be stronger and better than you in this area, then take in account your strengths and their weaknesses. What route do you think your competitors are likely going to take? How can you leverage off your strengths and talents in a way that other people can’t easily replicate or do it better than you? What do you have that they don’t?
If you find yourself lacking in certain areas needed to achieve this goal, then dedicate some time to sharpen some skills. This might take a while but you will never go anywhere unless you get started. Everyone’s got to start somewhere.
6. Write down a to-do list and tick it off one by one.
Once you have written down a strategy of how you’re going to achieve the goal, write down each action plan. What do you need to do first, second, and third? What are the most important tasks? What are the most urgent tasks? Prioritize them. Put them in order in a timely manner so you can focus on one task at a time.
7. Focus on each step of the plan.
Be focused and really focused. Sometimes we get too excited about the future and the big picture that we forget to focus on the present and what we have to do NOW! Focus on moving from where you are now to the next step only. Make sure you do it right. Eliminate all distractions – whether that maybe the friends who try to get you to go out, social media, mobile phone, TV, or music.
The key to accomplishing a goal is to focus – from one task to the next, don’t lose your momentum. If you find yourself struggling to stick through to a goal, use our Change a Habit in 30 Days printable as a tool to achieve a goal. Focus on one day at a time and the next thing you know you’ve made it to 30 days!
Get into the flow. Be so focused that you feel like you’ve lost track of time.
8. Persevere & Be Consistent.
Most of the time we don’t accomplish something because we give up too soon. The minute we feel like things are too hard, we give up because we feel like the goal is not worth fighting for anymore. This is why we said that if you want to accomplish something big and rewarding, you have to make sure you want it badly enough. Because only those who persevere will make it through. You might fail over and over. The key to this is to not lose hope and faith in yourself, become resilient, and get back up again doing things more intelligently than last time.
The man who moves a mountain begins carrying away small stones.
Sometimes people think that they can offset inconsistency with one big payoff. For example, a quick detox or a hardcore workout session is not going to help fix your health when you have been having poor diet for several months or years. If you want to achieve a goal, you have to consistently work toward it. You can’t leave it off and pick it up again when you feel like it.
It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It’s what we do consistently.
– Tony Robbins
Like the rabbit and the turtle story, the turtle wins in the end because even though he may move at a slower pace, he never stops moving. He is consistently moving forward.
This article was co-authored by Guy Reichard. Guy Reichard is an Executive Life Coach and the Founder of HeartRich Coaching & Training, a professional life coaching and inner leadership training provider based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. He works with people to create more meaning, purpose, well-being, and fulfillment in their lives. Guy has over 10 years of personal growth coaching and resilience training experience, helping clients enhance and transform their inner worlds, so they can be a more positive and powerful influence on those they love and lead. He is an Adler Certified Professional Coach (ACPC), and is accredited by the International Coach Federation. He earned a BA in Psychology from York University in 1997 and a Master of Business Administration (MBA) from York University in 2000.
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